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How to Manage Difference of Opinions After a Divorce

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Each person has a unique way of viewing the world, so conflict isn’t necessarily a bad thing. In fact, differences of opinion in relationships often foster open communication and change. 

During a divorce, it is important to deal with differences in a calm, respectful manner and ensure that you hear the other person out. 

Know When To Stand Your Ground & When To Work Together 

It’s best to know what you are willing to give up and what you are willing to stand firm on before you start the divorce proceedings. 

Don’t give in too much to make your ex nicer or more generous, but do get very clear on your bottom line – the items and arrangements that are truly critical to you.

This should be told to your lawyer before discussions start so they know what to focus on. 

The Children Come First

The best interests of the children should always be at the forefront of any divorce decision-making process.

Both parties need to try to communicate effectively to resolve differences of opinions, especially where the parties have shared decision-making responsibility of the children.

Making shared parenting work is important to provide children with stability and security, and to allow them to maintain a close relationship with both parents.

Effectively managing fundamental differences in a relationship will also allow for a more seamless transition to co-parenting for you and your former spouse.

What is important is to maintain mutual respect and ensure that the best interests of the children are always at the forefront of any decision-making process.

Sharing Your Feelings Is A Good Thing

Sharing your feelings isn’t just a touchy-feely exercise, it actually can disarm any defensive and hostile walls that are a barrier to good communication.

In these situations, your ex-spouse may be having the same thoughts. Therefore, sharing your feelings opens the gateway for honest communication. 

Start off by explaining your genuine thoughts and feelings about the situation and then try to find common ground.


Overall, knowing when to hold your ground is key to being satisfied with your separation and your position should be discussed with a legal professional before you start any process to ensure that your expectations are reasonable and attainable.

Your divorce lawyer will be able to give you realistic advice on what should be your priority, and what is more out of reach.

Be sure to explain with each request:

  1. Where you are coming from.
  2. Why it is important for you to get what you are asking for. 

And lastly, children come before any assets you may want or need, so making a co-parent situation work is imperative for your child’s overall well-being.

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