Maybe the idea has been rolling around in your mind for some time, or maybe a recent event has suddenly opened your eyes to the need to get a divorce.
Either way, it is incredibly important to take the time to plan and prepare before you file for divorce. It is important to consult with a lawyer right from the moment when you are certain that the marriage is moving in an irreconcilable direction.
Not making a rash, unplanned decision
It can be tempting to advise your spouse that you intend to file for divorce to end an argument or when it feels like you have leverage. But doing this without first taking into account your financial situation and regional divorce laws puts you at a strong disadvantage.
Don’t just expect that the system will take care of you, even if your partner has been caught in adulterous or abusive behaviour. Relying that “everything will work out in the end” puts too much at stake. Avoid what may be costly or detrimental decisions by consulting with a divorce lawyer well in advance of such decisions.
Setting goals and expectations
As part of the planning process, you will begin to set realistic and achievable goals for your future. Going into a divorce with an expectation for how things will turn out will keep you grounded and focused throughout the proceedings.
Not having a firm plan for your present and future increases the chance of making a “spur of the moment” decision that could come back to bite you.
Consult a legal professional
To begin with, talk to a Lawyer trained to deal with separation and family law. They will be able to give you recommendations and get you started in the right direction.
The weeks and months following your decision to divorce will reveal how well you have prepared. Having a quick and firm response to the questions that arise will put you in a favourable light with the judge, mediator or other decision makers in your case.